How to Use Tinder (For Complete Beginners)

How to Use Tinder (For Complete Beginners)

25.Jun.2021

HOW TO USE TINDER:
Hi I'm Chris Shepherd, and I'm one of the
lead coaches with the dating coaching
company Love Systems and I'm going to
give you a really quick tutorial on how
to use tinder. I'm gonna show you how to
install tinder and I'm also going to
show you how to set up your profile and
give you some simple tips that you can
use to start meeting people on tinder
right away.
The Tinder app is an amazing opportunity for
your dating life if you know how to do
use it properly
there are millions of people of all ages
and different types all around the world
using tinder, but it is also frustrating
for a lot of people because you don't
necessarily get matched with people on Tinder
unless you know how to do things right.
So, let's just start from the beginning,
I'm going to show you how to install
Tinder onto your phone.
First you want to go into the app store
and you want to find the tinder app through
the search feature. So you have the tinder app
right here in the app store you go in
and you download it. You might want
to have Wi-Fi available for doing this
it's about 60 megabytes right now which is
not terribly terribly large. And it should just
download in a few minutes whether you are on
on your cellular network or on Wi-Fi. Now
that you have downloaded the Tinder app you can open
it and start to set up your profile so
the first thing you want to do is you
need to login with facebook. Now, I
recommend that you use your real
facebook profile to log into Tinder, it is going to give you
automatic access to all your pictures and is
going to automatically exclude your
friends from finding you on Tinder which
is an advantage. But, it will tell, right
now, it will tell you when you have a
second connection, so the Friends of your
friends are going to be notified that
you have a friend in common
most people find this actually helps a
lot because it allows you to have
something in common when you're chatting
with a stranger but it it is something
that sometimes people for privacy
reasons they don't like, but i highly
recommend you will get more dates if you
log in with your original facebook and
get all those all those photographs we
added to your profile so log in with
facebook may be asked for your password
at this point you want to answer it and
now you see you allowed to use your
location will use you want to have that
you want to give Tinder the permission to
send you notifications as well. So, once
you've linked tinder
with your facebook account you're gonna
want to take a look make a profile so i
already have a profile setup here but i
can show you the steps involved in
creating a Tinder profile. So, first thing you
want to do you want to select your
Tinder profile picture. The first thing
you're going to want to you're going to
want to pick your photographs. Tinder
does a really good job of taking the
best photograph and putting into the
front so eventually you're gonna find
the photographs that get the most
reactions from the opposite sex, but at
the beginning you kind of have to guess, so the best
photographs are usually once that have
to start from your chest show your face
clearly have you looking at the camera
you don't want to have photographs that
have you way off in the distance so
people can't tell what you look like bad
lighting or anything like that
I'm so the photograph that the Tinder
picked for me is this one here and it's me
it's a great combination of a bunch of
features is me I'm looking straight at
the camera you can see my face very very
clearly i look like i'm having a good
time I've got a friend with me which
makes me look like a social person and
i'm also got a little bit of an
interesting background these kinds of
photos are really the best selfies can
be okay
photographs with friends can be really
good but it also when it comes to
friends you know you want to make sure
that the person knows which one you are
right if it's if it's just long shot
with eight friends or something
like that, that doesn't really highlight
your physical features so there's some
debate as to whether you should put
topless photographs in your tinder
profile some guys kind of works really
well
other guys plan is really douchey the
best way to to get both sides that is
take a photograph where you have an
excuse to have your shirt off, so if you're at
the beach if you're playing sports if
you're out having fun that's the kind of
time when you might be able to fit in a
tasteful shirtless top
I'm not necessarily advocating it
guys but i know from a lot of experience
this works
ok the next thing you're going to want
to add is a little spiel about yourself
now you don't want to go too long but it
can really help if you say the right
things women if they are interested in
your profile photo they will read this
and they will make some kind of judgment
as to who you are as a person based on
what they
see. So, I like to tell guys it's really
important that you start with something
punch or something interesting so I
put on the top of my profile "not boring"
that is something that has worked really
well for me a really good strategies to
use that message "me if" line in your
profile message me if you're like this
or like that that's the kind of thing
that women also respond to it let's just
let them show lets you show that you're
actually looking for a certain kind of
person if that kind of person comes
across it they're gonna be way more
likely to message you. So you might say " message me if you
have good taste in music", "message me
you like the outdoors" these are the
kinds of things that can make you stand
out of the crowd for the kind of person
that you're interested in dating. So
eventually if you if you swipe right
enough people you're going to get a
match
alright and what you want to do at that
point is you want to send a message
Now, here is the advice for how to send
messages to women on Tinder.
The first thing you don't want to do is
you don't want to send her
"hey what's up" because that is what 99%
of guy said you also don't want to send
other things that sound like "hey what's
up" like "hey how's it going?" "How are you
doing?" "having fun?"
"what's your day like?" Ok? These all are
"hey what's up ?" - You want to distinguish
yourself. Attractive women get
dozens and dozens of messages today and
if you can just be a little bit
different
you're gonna get way more responses ok
so a good way to start is to have a
little bit of emotion, it's also going to
have a little challenge to the message
that you send to her on Tinder so you can also look
through profile and see what you are
what you find
now this woman in particular she's got
nothing here reading just got her
Instagram let's send her a message i'm
going to send her sarcastic message that
says, "I just read your profile and I feel
like I've known you forever" and also i'm
going give her a little wink, just in case
she doesn't get that. So, to be perfectly honest
Tinder is a little bit of a numbers game
so don't get too fixated on anyone as
soon as you send the message just move
on
keep on swiping your Tinder matches and see what you can
find another match once you make that
match, that's really where the hard work
starts because a lot of guys have a hard
time getting women to reply back to their
messages and also getting women once
they are in a conversation to meet up
for a date and that's one of the things
that we cover in a lot of detail in our
book matches the tender book for men
where we go really into a lot of that
have a set of the profile so you get the
maximum number of matches but then also
to once you're getting these matches how
to actually build the comfort the
attraction the interest, the trust
that is required to go from an online dating
app to a real date it is something that
any guy can do, but it's also something
that does require a little bit of skill
requires a little bit of understanding
what women are thinking at any given moment
and understanding some of the
games women tend to
play online
let's be honest this stuff happens so if
you're interested you should check out
Matches the Tinder Book for Men and where we
go a lot more detail or check out some
of the other videos in this series you
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